How I Told My Husband I was a Compulsive Overeater, Final

Here is the final part of the letter, part III, that I gave to my husband close to two years ago, when I realized I was a compulsive overeater and food addict.

I do not eat in order to live, I live to eat. I think about food all the time, what I’m going to eat and how long until I can eat it. What I’ve learned is that there has to be a reason why I compulsively overeat and I need to find out what the reason (or reasons) is. I am apparently eating to fill up a void or emptiness in myself, something I feel like I’m lacking in myself or in my life. It may be some kind of insecurity, I’m not sure. I do know that I have to figure out what it is so I can get a hold of it instead of letting it keep a hold of me.

I hope that admitting this to myself and to you will be a positive thing for me. I recently ordered a book by overeaters anonymous so I can maybe help myself that way and get myself started in the right direction. Maybe I will eventually need to go to speak with someone. So at this point, you probably have a couple of things going through your mind. The first is probably, geez, what kind of whacko am I married to? Hopefully the second thing that is going through your mind is – what can I do to help her? This one I can assist you with. Going forward, would you please stop bringing treats home for me? I totally recognize that you are being thoughtful bringing home something you know that I will enjoy and I appreciate that. However, I hope you now understand that treats are often a problem for me. I’m sure that with your love and support, I can conquer this.

Thanks for reading this. I love you.


2 comments so far

  1. Fullofhope on

    I think it’s great that you were honest with your husband. I think it’s great too that you ordered the Overeaters Anonymous book. However, I would really encourage you to find an OA meeting to attend. I have been attending for over a year. It is so wonderful to share with a group of people who have the same feelings and issues as I do. Others really don’t understand. OA is truly a fellowship and support group. It is also a place of anonymity. We don’t share last names, social status, etc. We are all equal and are there for one reason – to help each other become free from compulsive eating. You will find understanding, encouraagement, and answers there. Following the twelve steps in the OA book and attending meetings have made a huge difference not only in my compulsive and emotional eating but also in many areas of my life. You can find more information or a meeting near you at

    • love2eatinpa on

      hi and thanks so much for writing! write after i read the letter to my husband, i did go to a bunch of meetings and found one that i liked. i attended that meeting for over a year and enjoyed it. soon, i found other great sources of support and used them on a daily basis instead of going to the meeting once a week. and i agree with you, it is fabulous to sit in a room with people who totally understand you and know exactly where you are coming from, because no one else can truly understand. take care!

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